Proactive People See Future with Imagination

How do you respond to what happens to you?

The book ‘The 7 Habits Highly Effective People’ says “Between stimulus and response, man has the freedom to choose.”
It also mentioned about two types of people called  “reactive people” and “proactive people”. Reactive people are “not able to choose my response”, said the book. But I’m thinking that they might choose their responsive behavior unconsciously.

On the other day, I studied HABIT1: “Be Proactive” at a 7 habit practice workshop with my friends of that facilitators. During the workshop, I noticed if there could be a different world for people to see between reactive people and proactive ones.

Today’s story is like that.

Can See If Proactive or Reactive with Eye Patterns

There is Calibration skill in NLP. It can guess people’s state from nonverbal messages: posture, breathing, expression, eye position, voice tone and so on.

Eye-patterns is one of them. Eyes are organs connecting the brain directly and we can see them from outside. By observing their eye-patterns, we can guess if another person is seeing their memory or imagining something.
(It’s not perfect though)

I observed the participants’ eye-patterns during the workshop. I noted their eye-patterns is different when they talked between proactively and reactively.

I felt they saw the future when being proactive and the past when being reactive.

Proactive People Is Living Now and Here to Create Future

That language comes from a basic paradigm of determinism.
Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

(Note: ‘That’ is ‘reactive people’)

The basic paradigm of determinism is a social mirror to show the following three social maps.

Three social maps
  • Genetic determinism
  • Psychic determinism
  • Environmental determinism

Some people have the paradigm to accept what you must be from these determinisms. This is the paradigm that the past makes now.

Reactive people have the paradigm and they are seeing the memories in the past, I think. Thus, we could say they are living in the past.

On the other hands, proactive people are thinking about how they can address some problems as below;

  • for Direct control problems: work on our habits
  • for Indirect control problems: change our methods of influence
  • for No control problems: smile, genuinely and peacefully accept these problems

They are using imagination to try to choose the future in which they want to be. The only human has that imagination. They are living now and here, and trying to create a better future.

I thought there are different worlds between proactive and reactive people to see.

World saw by proactive and reactive people
  • Proactive: Image, the Future
  • Reactive: Memory, the Past

So I’m thinking we should be proactive to open up the future.

Dragging the past is just a burden to now and the future. We are better to leave the burden past and to think about how we can live in the current situation. We should consider how to do to take a better life even if being in the worst cases.

We have some options which we can choose freely without hesitation to anyone.
So let’s create the future with imagination proactively by choosing exited one what you want to be.


Today’s Quote !!

We are responsible for our own effectiveness, for our own happiness, and ultimately, I would say, for most of our circumstances.
Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

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