Tune Your State to What You Want to Be like Radio

This page is translated from the following original page in Japanese for me to study English.

Have you experienced you felt that a good thing kept happening after good things or a bad thing did as well?
Which one, good things or bad things, keeps happening a lot in your life?

I heard a sentence at an NLP class before.

Butterflies are around a flower, flies are around poo.

It depends on your behavior which one is attracted, said my teacher.

Today’s story is that.

You can choose butterflies, so as flies

The sentence, ‘Butterflies are around a flower, flies are around poo’, was talked by Masashi NAKAMURA, the founder of an OKONOMIYAKI restaurant, CHIBO, in Japan.

I found his speech on the following site;

参考 「花には蝶、うんこにはハエ」天狼院書店

People around us are telling the truth of us.

Butterflies are around a flower, flies are around poo

It is the same what we say there are many flies around us as what we say I am poo.
If we want butterflies to be around us, we should be a flower.

He mentioned.

(Translated by me)

There are many people you don’t like.
Some bad things happen around you.

In that case, we should check us if becoming poo.

If we notice that we have become poo, we can choose to be a flower.
If we are a flower, flies will fly away and butterflies will come instead.

Which one, butterflies or flies, do you want to attract?
To do that, will you become a flower or poo? We are free to choose both options.

Attract good things by tuning frequency

We can attract good things by being a flower.
On the other hand, good things and bad things happen at the same time, I think.

You saw some advertisements for a car which you want to buy after you had been interested in it, didn’t you?

It comes from RAS functions from a point of view of brain science.

So evolution has given us the RAS ? the equipment to filter all information and to extract only what is important to us at any given moment.
Allan & Barbara Pease, The Answer

We are recognizing the information which we focus and select.

You can imagine the radio. We can listen to many programs by tuning frequency because the radio is receiving some frequencies at the same time.
We tune the radio to our favorite station by ourselves.

We are receiving both good and bad things at all time.
We can tune our frequency to our favorite situation if we want to fill our lives with satisfaction.

Magic of Thank you and Be a flower

So how can we tune our frequency?

NLP has some techniques. The circle of excellence is one of that. But if you want to use it, you need to learn it or take some supports by an NLP practitioner.

So I can tell you the way what I practice every day though I’m not sure if it’s good for everyone.

Tune us to a favorite situation in the style of Hiro
  1. Say ‘Thank you’
  2. Say ‘Be a flower’

I wrote an article about ‘saying thank you’ in the past. (Only Japanese)


I wrote ‘It was gradually reducing what I felt bad and bad things itself’.
I’m thinking that I could change my frequency from a bad program to a good one.

I’m also thinking that I’m now poo when I’m in trouble.
And I said to me


Be a flower

After that, there are many times that some bad things were over.

Of course, it could be just coincident when I said ‘Thank you’ and ‘Be a flower’. I’m not sure if it can be good for everyone like NLP. It’s just my personal experience. But they surely work an anchor to tune me to a good frequency.

Please try it if you like.

My NLP teacher told a story at a class;

When I took a taxi driven by a quiet driver, I got two kinds of feelings with my states.

  • He was unaffable when I wanted to chat.
  • He was nice when I didn’t want to chat.

So it’s just me to decide if the driver was good or bad to me.

Just our states make us see how reality is.
(States relate to our internal emotional condition. In NLP we believe that the state determines our results.)

If our states are as a flower, butterflies come around us.
Flies sometimes come to a flower but they will fly away soon for poo.

‘The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People’ has the below sentence;

Between stimulus and response, man has the freedom to choose.
Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

This means that we can choose our response proactively.
We can keep us in good states by choosing our response proactively.
To tune us to our favorite frequency is to do that unconsciously, I think.

So let’s try to tune you to your favorite frequency so good things can keep happening.


Today’s Quote !!

They do not blame circumstances, conditions, or conditioning for their behavior. Their behavior is a product of their own conscious choice, based on values, rather than a product of their conditions, based on feeling.
Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

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